Do You...

- Feel afraid of your partner most of the time?
- Feel that you can’t do anything right?
- Get embarrassed by your partner’s behavior toward you?
- Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
- Avoid topics or situations out of fear of angering your partner?

Does your Partner...

- Humiliate, criticize or yell at you?
- Blame you for his behavior?
- Threaten to hurt you?
- Threaten to take your kids away?
- Threaten to harm your kids or pets?
- Force you to have sex?
- Act jealous and possessive?
- Keep you from seeing friends and family?
- Limit your access to money or necessities?
- Keep you from getting a job or going to school?
- Constantly check up on you?
- Threaten to kill or hurt themself if you leave?

Does your Friend or Loved One...

- Have frequent injuries resulting from “accidents”?
- Frequently and suddenly miss work, school or cancel plans?
- Receive frequent calls from a partner?
- Fear their partner, or refer to a partner’s rages or behavior?
- Lack assertiveness or have submissive behavior?
- Isolate from friends and families?
- Have insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)?

For Friends...

- Their boyfriend/girlfriend calls them names or puts them down in front of others.
- Their boyfriend/girlfriend acts extremely jealous when they talk to friends of the opposite sex, even when it is completely innocent.
- Your friend often cancels plans at the last minute, for reasons that sound untrue.
- Your friend frequently apologizes for their boyfriend/girlfriend.
- Your friend’s boyfriend/girlfriend is constantly checking up on them, calling or texting and demanding to know where they have been.
- You’ve seen the boyfriend/girlfriend lose their temper, maybe even get violent when they’re mad.
- Your friend is always worried about upsetting their boyfriend/girlfriend.
- Your friend is giving up things that used to be important to them, such as spending time with friends or other activities, and is becoming more and more isolated.
- Your friend’s weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically.
- Your friend has injuries they can’t explain, or the explanations they give don’t add up.

For Parents...

DOES your CHILD?
- Make changes in their daily rituals?
- Retreat from school or activities?
- Experience isolation from friends?
- Weight, appearance and grades have changed dramatically?
- Make changes in clothing?
- Wear clothing inappropriate for the weather in order to hide marks?
- Have visible marks or bruises?
- Spend excessive amounts of time with the person they’re dating?
- Spend excessive amounts of time in contact with the person they are dating through cell phones and computers?

Does your Partner:

1. Constantly check your phone, voicemail, caller ID, or answering machine to see who called you, who you’ve called, and who you’ve received messages from?
2. Check your email or instant message log to see who you’ve been chatting with online?
3. Damage, break, or steal technology that you need to assist with daily living or to do your schoolwork or job?
4. Call or text constantly throughout the day to see where you are and/or who you’re with?
5. Install spyware or other computer software to monitor your online activity?
6. Send forged, inappropriate, or sexually explicit messages to your friends from your account?
7. Dictate who and how many “friends” you can have on your instant message / Twitter / Facebook account?
8. Post inappropriate or sexually explicit messages on your website or blog?
9. Post false profiles about you on online dating sites or your school’s alumni site?
10. Call at all hours, waking you up, interfering with your daily activities, and getting angry if you don’t answer immediately?
11. Hack into your bank accounts, phone accounts, credit card accounts, or other accounts without your knowledge and permission?
12. Stalk you by monitoring your location through the use of a “friends” plan on your cell phone or GPS or a similar technology?
13. Harass you through email or IM using anonymous email addresses and screen names?
14. Isolate you by cutting off your internet or phone service, or other access to technology without telling you?
15. Dictate what technology you’re allowed to use and when you’re allowed to use it?